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Neil Koop

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NEIL (CORNELIUS) KOOP

June 5, 1949 - August 18, 2023

Peacefully, with his beloved wife Marge and close friends at his side, Neil passed away on August 18, 2023.

 

Left behind to mourn his passing are his wife Marge of 53 years, his brothers Jac (Mary) Koop and Dave Koop (Heather Sheardown); brothers-in-law Vern Penner, John Froese (Marie) and sisters-in-law Anne Penner, Bertha Gunson and Marie Penner as well as many nephews, nieces and friends. He was predeceased by his parents, Peter N. and Katharina Koop; sisters Helen Severson, Annie Schultz, Tina Siemens, Margaret Van Wyk and his brother Peter Koop.

 

Neil grew up on a small hobby farm on the outskirts of Steinbach. His mother, widowed when Neil was only 4, led him to become  the hard-working, forever patient, kind and compassionate man for which he was known and loved. Always ready to lend a hand, he put others needs in before his own.

 

Neil was schooled in Steinbach and went on to attend the University of Manitoba where he received his Bachelor of Social Work. He began his career in Moose Jaw, Saskatchewan, where he worked as a Marriage and Family Therapist at the Moose Jaw Union Hospital. It was here that Neil and Marge formed a life-long bond with Jez and Sandra Ryba, quickly becoming a part of their family. Leaving their friends behind was a difficult choice but adventure was calling. Two and a half years later they made the move to the northern frontier of Whitehorse, Yukon. Their brand new, bright red Datson was quickly traded in for a second-hand VW Westphalia van and they were off, about to experience 950 miles of gravel! Just a year earlier they made their first trip to the Rockies where they fell in love with the breathtaking beauty. From that moment on, they spent most of their summer vacations hiking in the mountains. Whitehorse seemed a natural fit. It was here that Neil cut his teeth as a social worker, covering every facet of social work along the Alaska Highway from Whitehorse to the Alaska border, including communities north and south of Whitehorse.

 

After two years he returned to Winnipeg to pursue his Masters of Social Work at the University of Manitoba. Neil worked as a professional Social Worker for 44 years, spending the last 15 years as a consultant, fully retiring in 2019. He worked with numerous government and non-government organizations, spending most of his career  working in mental health and mental wellness. He was passionate about removing the stigma associated with mental health, wanting it to be normalized and recognized as an illness like any other.

 

Neil was loved and respected by his colleagues. He always went into work early to do what he called his “bean-counting” so that for the rest of the day his door would be open to listen to people’s concerns, to collaborate and come up with creative solutions to problems.

 

Neil was a constant support to Marge in her career, becoming known as her “O’Neil”, her favourite and trusted roadie. Whether it was lifting and carrying equipment, setting up and tearing down the stage, stacking and unstacking chairs and tables, running errands only to be sent out one (or two or three) more times to pick up “just one more thing” that was absolutely essential.

 

Neil lived his life with gratitude, each and every day. In 2005 he fell ill with an unknown virus, went from being a healthy person, walking many miles every day to having no heart function in a matter of 10 days. A new heart became available after a short 15 hours of being placed on the list. Post transplant, Neil lived a healthy, full and wonderful life, enjoyed working out at the Rady Centre 4 to 5 days a week, cycling, hiking, puttering and  building things around the home and cottage. Life became more challenging in the last year of his life. Through it all, he never complained. He was happy to the end, grateful for the gift of 17 1/2 additional years of precious life. Neil was grateful to be able to do home dialysis with his favourite “nurse” Marge by his side.

 

Special thanks to Shari Barker, Dr. Shelly Ziroth and Dr. Allan Schaffer at the Adult Heart Transplant Program at the St. Boniface Hospital and the staff at the Home Hemodialysis program at Seven Oaks Hospital for their care and support.

 

In accordance with Neil’s wishes, cremation has taken place.  A celebration of Neil’s life will take place at 7:30 pm on Wednesday, September 13, 2023 at Young United Church.

When you remember me I shall be among you

When you think about me, smile

My memory will be a blessing on you

Remember me and Death

will not have power over me.

Translated from Hungarian

Donations may be made to the St. Boniface Hospital Foundation or a charity of your choice in honour of Neil.

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Ruth and Larry

September 26, 2023 at 3:05 PM

Sending you our love and condolences Marge. Thank you for sharing the celebration of life on YouTube. It was a beautiful service honoring a wonderful man that had such a positive effect on all of our lives. My love of sport dates back to watching Hockey Night in Canada with him as a child.  A man of his integrity leaves a void in this world with his passing, but I hope and pray that the wonderful memories will bring you peace and comfort. ❤

Jan Byrd

September 26, 2023 at 11:46 AM

Dear Marge, Sending you my sincerest condolences! I was so sorry to hear of Neil's passing. I spent so much time in your home for lessons and events, and Neil was always so kind, caring, and authentic. He was a truly wonderful man, who made everyone feel welcome in his presence and in his home. Your love for each other was so obvious! Senidng hugs your way,  Jan❤

Jocelyne Lafournaise

September 16, 2023 at 11:58 AM

Sincere condolences to Marge. I worked with Neil early in my social work career. He was always very supportive and willing to listen or give guidance. Above all, he made going to work special by his presence. He was a lot of fun to work with. You never knew what the day would bring as long as Neil was around (or even when he was not as he would have a way to keep us going even from a distance). He certainly left the world a better place. 

Phil Daley

September 15, 2023 at 9:57 PM

I first met Neil when I first came to Winnipeg from South Central Ontario (what they imagine to be “central Canada” don’t y’a know!). I was feeling lonely in my wonderful new home in Winnipeg and I decided to knock off an item from my bucket list … to join a community choir. So I showed up one evening at the Grain Exchange Building to join the Manitoba Conservatory Singers which was directed by a “Margery Koop” (soon to become one of my best friends ever). It was a large group of people ... a true community choir. After some brief introductions, I found my place with the tenors. But as Marge attempted to gain control of the group to begin rehearsal, there was a minor kerfuffle from the back row of Basses. Some tall lanky guy was teetering his chair on its back legs against the wall and clearly encouraging his fellow “deep voices” into some sort of barely concealed shenanigans. Marge glared directly at him and firmly called out, “NEIL!” He responded with that signature feigned sidewise grin of his … of one falsely accused (“What???”) but firmly caught in the act. And I thought, “This one’s gonna be trouble but I’ll bet he’ll be lots of fun … my kind of choir!!!” And that was my introduction to one of kindest, generous and most self-effacing gentle men I have ever been blessed to know. My life has been profoundly enriched over the years of knowing my friend Neil. And yet, with such a sense of rare richness, how strange to now be simultaneously filled with a deep sense of impoverishment trying to realize his sudden absence. I suppose that all worthwhile blessings are so. Thank you, Neil. I am grateful for you. Requiem in pacem. 

Leanne Boyd

September 13, 2023 at 12:06 PM

Neil and I worked together for decades in government, in  community mental health. Over the last years, we shared the pleasure of many, by chance visits, at the local grocery store. Neil was a man of joy, integrity, and compassion, never wavering in his commitment to equity, diversity and inclusion. With much gratitude to Neil and Marge, for sharing his life with all of us, I offer my sympathy and prayers to Marge. May he rest in eternal peace.  Leanne Boyd

Simon Hiebert

September 13, 2023 at 10:28 AM

I was shocked to learn of Neil's passing. As teen agers, Neil and I had a part time job at Rieger's clothing (a men's clothing store) in Steinbach. He was a fun guy to work with. Sadly our paths only crossed one more time since then. It was at my cousin Stanley's funeral when singing one of the hymns I could hear this magnificent voice, curious I turned around only to find Neil and Marj right behind me. Marj you are a true songbird!  Marj my sincere condolences and prayers are with you during this difficult time.   

Marty Drouillard

September 10, 2023 at 6:55 PM

My heart grieves for your loss Marge! Dave and I had a few brief encounters with you and Neil up at Glen and Pats cottage, they were special and memorable and warm. We loved both of you through Glen and Pat!

Sharon Poelstra

September 8, 2023 at 7:17 PM

marge and Neil, you remain a highlight from the 5 wonderful years I lived n Winnipeg.  Condolences to Marge at the loss of your partner and best friend to share all of life’s adventures.  Although we have met up rarely since my move away, every time we have spoken has reinforced the gift of your friendship.  Wishing you joy in your memories and best wishes for the road forward.  ❤

Linda Curtis

September 5, 2023 at 9:15 PM

Brian and I send our sincere condolences to you, Marge and the rest of your family. We will always remember the good times when we met and talked at the Wanipigow picnics and sometimes at the dock or along the road. Hope your happy memories will support you in the days ahead. Sincerely,  Brian and Linda Curtis

Colleen Watts

September 5, 2023 at 8:09 PM

Sincere condolences to you Marge. Working with Neil in the 70’s was a privilege -he was always supportive of his colleagues and his sense of humour an added bonus. Both Jim and I remember that VW camper van from our shared camping trips to Hecla Island. Neil’s life was well lived and he will be missed and remembered by many. Colleen and Jim Watts

Scott Murray

September 5, 2023 at 7:32 PM

My sympathies to Marge.  I had the pleasure of knowing Neil through our mutual work at Manitoba Health.  Neil was always a bright spot in the day and I enjoyed our chats.  His contributions to the province were many.

Denis St. Hilaire

September 4, 2023 at 6:59 PM

My sincere condolences Margorie. Neil was instrumental in my introduction to social services in the 80’s. His guidance and mentorship profoundly shaped my entire career and I am so grateful to him. Although the workplace was enriched by Neil’s presence, my fondest memories revolve around our regular lunchtime squash matches. Those were really good times with Neil. He was undeniably an exceptional individual.  Denis St. Hilaire

Garry Koop

September 4, 2023 at 5:01 PM

Another wonderful tribute in pictures and words. Uncle Neil was an amazing, funny, kind and thoughtful person - not to mention good looking - like his whole life. Love you… 

Bev and Bruce Jacobs

September 4, 2023 at 4:22 PM

It has been a privilege to know Neil and enjoy his friendship in our lives. We will always remember our good times together and will miss his warm caring ways. 

Bill Martin

September 4, 2023 at 3:48 PM

 Neil was kind and good. Our condolences. Sharon Mulder and Bill Martin

Erna (Koop) and John Dyck

September 3, 2023 at 10:08 PM

Our deepest sympathy, Marge. Our hearts of love and prayers, are with you. Such a precious, loving, caring Uncle, Neil was. Full of love, humor, encouragement, wisdom and tenderness. Our lives were truly enriched because of him. 

Winnie Pauch

September 3, 2023 at 2:32 PM

Please accept my heartfelt condolences Marge, I too had the honour of being an occasional work mate of Neil's and so appreciated his fine mind, generous nature and gentle approach to difficult problems.  He was truly unflappable and had a wonderful sense of fun.  He made the lives of many people better and brighter and I count myself among those grateful he did what he did.  

Susan Chipperfield

September 3, 2023 at 12:45 PM

My deepest condolences to Marge and family. I was so saddened to hear of Neil’s passing. I met Neil through work in the early 90’s and have been blessed with 30+ years of treasured connection and true friendship. Neil was such a caring, generous, gracious, wise and gifted soul. He was a rare human and will long be remembered by many. 

Ed and Kathy Reynolds

September 3, 2023 at 9:22 AM

We were truly shocked and saddened to see that Neil had passed and was no longer with us. Our deepest condolences go out to you Marge and all your family. He was an amazing and caring person. The world has lost a gentle, peaceful soul.

Verna Adolf

September 3, 2023 at 12:00 AM

I knew Neil from my very early days with the Province of MB as it was called then. He was a caring, intuitive and skilled clinician. I doubt if he would even remember me, but he was the type of person that one would not soon forget. I did hear of his heart transplant years ago. How wonderful that he had an additional 17+ years to be with his family and share his talents and passion in the mental health field. Sincere condolences to his family and loved ones.

Ken Kroeker

September 2, 2023 at 5:51 PM

Sorry to hear about Neil’s passing and my condolences to you.  He was a kind caring person who valued relationship with folks he encountered.  This was also evident in the principles/values he promoted in his client centred mental health policy work which I had the pleasure to work with him on various projects.  Also much enjoyed the occasional coffee lunch visits.  Take care.

Annita and Vern Giesbrecht

September 2, 2023 at 4:54 PM

We are so very saddened by the loss of our dear friend Neil. His kindness, compassion, joie de vivre, his sense of humour, generosity and wisdom will be fondly remembered always.  It was a  privilege to experience his friendship, there is so much we will miss, hold those beautiful memories close to your heart Marge, our  deepest condolences to you and the family.

Don and Mary Sexsmith

September 2, 2023 at 4:42 PM

Marge and family.  Our prayers are with you.  

Margaret Synyshyn

September 2, 2023 at 12:43 PM

So sorry to hear of Neil’s passing. A truly gracious and thoughtful person who was true to his values and was a true champion for mental health.  A life well lived. 

Robin Newton

September 2, 2023 at 12:01 PM

Dave and I were so sorry to hear of Neil’s passing. Our deepest condolences to Marge, his extended family and friends. 

Marjorey Dwornick

September 2, 2023 at 11:57 AM

I enjoyed working with Neil at the Mental Health Branch.  I always knew him to be a kind and gentle person whose leadership set the tone for the day-to-day operations of the Branch.  My condolences to Neil's wife and family.

Judy Pringle

September 2, 2023 at 11:36 AM

Marge, I offer my deepest condolences on the passing of your beloved Neil. He was a wonderful man, and together, you were a wonderful couple. Take good care as you journey through your grief.  Judy Pringle

Kristin Franks

September 2, 2023 at 10:27 AM

I met Neil while I was working as a frontline crisis worker in 2002/2003 and remember him as kind and very approachable.  I recall the shocking news that he required (and received) a heart transplant.  I have often thought of him over the years and it brings me joy to know that he had recovered and had good years with his family and friends. My prayers are with you now. 

Grace Reimer

September 2, 2023 at 10:02 AM

Ken & I are sad to hear of Neil’s passing.  17 years ago both Ken & Neil became “miracle men” from unexpected circumstances & we celebrated their survival afterwards. Our deepest condolences Marge🌹

Greg Reid

September 2, 2023 at 8:31 AM

I am very saddened to hear of Neil’s passing.I first met him as a student in a social work course he was teaching and later had the privilege to work under his leadership. I will always remember with fondness his wisdom, kindness, and concern for others. Neil leaves an incredible personal and professional legacy with everyone who knew him. My condolences to Marge and family. May he rest in peace.

Michelle Pearson

September 2, 2023 at 6:25 AM

Sadden to learn of Neil’s passing. I had the privilege of meeting and working with Neil at the WRHA. His kindness, vision and compassion to help others still inspires me today in my work. These qualities carried outside of his role as colleague into how he walked in life. Deepest condolences to his family. 
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